Genesis 30:14-15
Reuben went in the days of wheat harvest and found mandrakes in the field, and brought them to his mother Leah. Then Rachel said to Leah, “Please give me some of your son’s mandrakes.”
15 But she said to her, “Is it a small matter that you have taken away my husband? Would you take away my son’s mandrakes also?”
And Rachel said, “Therefore he will lie with you tonight for your son’s mandrakes.”

I have thought about this verse before, and honestly, according to Jeremiah, the Bible shows Rachel being comforted, therefore not showing her as an unprofitable servant, though she nearly did the same as Esau. And along with that, I believe that she is looked upon in mercy despite her actions here because of fault being unto her father. This also shows what Peter said in regards to what is feminine and what is in submission being as a weaker vessel. This is also what it means when it says that the greatest will serve all. Because only the greatest can put themselves in the position to serve others. Therefore real greatness is not in lording authority.

Luke 12:13-15
one from the crowd said to Him, “Teacher, tell my brother to divide the inheritance with me.”
14 But He said to him, “Man, who made Me a judge or an arbitrator over you?” 15 And He said to them, “Take heed and beware of covetousness, for one’s life does not consist in the abundance of the things he possesses.”

God said in Isaiah 47, in regards to Babylon and Jezebel, that He would not arbitrate with a man. Arbitration is trying to settle things, when there really hasn't been any consolation at all. Usually things like this happen because people aren't listening, though it can be in defense too. After thinking about this passage in Luke, and thinking about what Rachel did, I think that perhaps her attitude towards Leah, was that she was going to have 'mercy' on Leah, because of how Rachel was thought to be more beautiful, and in Jacob's eyes. Rachel also was answered by Jacob, with Jacob also saying nearly what Jesus did in this passage from Luke, earlier in the chapter in Genesis 30. Rachel was barren, and Jacob told her that it wasn't him withholding the fruit of her womb.

James 1:20
the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God

Concerning Laban, Leah and Rachel's father, it is very concerning to think about how he dealth with Jacob. The Book of Jasher shows Leah and Rachel being twins, and Leah being the older. Laban told Jacob, after Jacob having found out that he had slept with Leah, and not Rachel, that it was not custom to give the younger daughter away before the older one. However, with Jacob finding out that he had slept with Leah the next morning, it is concerning to think about how he judged wanting Rachel as a wife. Firstly it shows him possibly choosing her because of her physical beauty. Secondly, if he didn't know it was Leah until the next day, it could be wondered regarding that really being his only motive. Obviously, he might not have known Rachel that well, nor conversed with her to know the difference, had there not been any light. The Book of Jasher shows that Jacob wondered where Rachel was during the wedding festivities, and didn't think much about not seeing her, after it was conveyed to him that what was happening was their custom. Laban strove with Jacob doing these things. And even when Jacob had married Rachel, and wanted to depart, Laban still strove with him. Laban made himself an arbitrator towards Jacob. One of the most frustrating things, is when someone tries to be over another person in something, but then also just holds the other person accountable. That is like someone making themselves an arbitrator, and then not even doing anything except holding back the power to deal with things from the other person. This is the context of God saying that He won't arbitrate. There must have been jealousy between Rachel and Leah, and very much so also caused through Laban's actions. At the same time though, when people do not consider other people, and also really love them, they leave them rejected, which is one of the most painful things, even as it leads into the worst pain, which is grief. Jesus died of rejection. The foremost problem present in all of these things, is a lack of communication, and a presence of mis-communication, besides the presence of the things that were on the surface. Usually, strife leads into quitting on things, before getting through what is on the surface. This is also why things such as gossip, and talebearing, and really doing any kind of harm to anyone is so embittering; because they add onto the presence of things on the surface. Paul said that the root of bitterness can defile many. And at the same time, people usually don't want to try to get involved with other people's problems. There is kind of the understanding in these things, regarding the straw that breaks the camel's back. And that is kind of the point of bitterness too. The love of the world very much so leads into problems such as these. Whether through traditions, customs, or the existence of things which are really not important, except on the surface. John shows that the love of the world is found in the pride of life, the lust of the eyes, and the lust of the flesh. Only God has the true core of what is important. And along with it, the surface is always good, even when we first start out. Because all of His goodness and love is already even present with us outwardly, if we have really received Him. The actual place in which superficial things abide, is not in the outward things, but in the consummation that occurs in balancing both of what is outward and inward, through continuing. It is in this, where the future scares people, and the past haunts them. Most people could at any moment stop and remain stable, in whatever morals they have. People say that one of the hardest things to exhibit is trust, and it is the aspect of trust that is occurring, in continuing in things. However, through the faith of God, the aspect of trust is 'nearly' completely already fulfilled though His love. Just as Romans 5 also shows. This is also why real accountability is that people hold themselves accountable, and this is also why within that, any time a person loses their peace, that they themselves have become positioned outside of God, and love. Abiding in God can entail having to put trust in Him, even in times when things don't seem to be going right. And it is the sandy foundation that is built on outside of the actual love and peace of God, and His oneness. But the Promise of God, is also that we were always with Him, having been in His foreknowledge and made new. It seems that we also have to balance things when we still do already have trust, just so that in case anything happens, everything doesn't fall apart. At the same time though, in any situation, it can be called falsehood to even have the appearance of doing so, because of how people say that we are already wrong just having an accusation, or have something like this over one's head. The contentment that is spoken of in Hebrews regarding marriage, is not in the context of either things not being that great, and not striving to make them better; nor is it in just trying to make things better. Peter talks about always being ready to give a defense in case we are accused, or in any kind of circumstance where an accusation could alight. The contentment spoken of is in the context of taking away the situation in which arbitration and even balancing is needed. But also, the contentment in that, shouldn't take place over what is shown in Isaiah as having a just claim (also saying just reward later). Many people were accused of being too zealous, and even accused of being wrong desiring to hold onto that, even through pain. Isaiah also says that God would give His lovingkindness neither for price nor reward. Is it a reward to have a wife? That sounds kind of impersonal, even as God also says that riches and houses come from a father, but a prudent wife comes from the LORD. But the existence of reward is in the context of having 'contended,' as to not letting go of a just claim, and then having it given, after having 'contended' (or won). It is not that things are merely regarded as possessions. It is actually very personal, to be regarded in the aspect of ownership. With many things, people resort to "if you let it go and it comes back to you" as to being the way of judging balance. It seems that many people think that it is better to let go, than to have zeal; or that if someone can't let go, then having to continue in zeal, even feeling like they have a just claim that is not being met or given, is proof of that person having fault. But that is the way that Job's friends tried to come to him. And that is also what happened to Jesus, David, and Elijah. Many couples even fight a lot, and people have stances both ways, trying to say that there is balance if they can let go of things, or that they are fighting because of having real love, or trying to pursue it. The church even thought that just having the circumstance of the closeness there is in marriage, was why there was no marriage in heaven, saying that only Jesus can give that, and there not be continual sin. And they say that 1 Corinthians 7 means this too. But that isn't the truth. The truth if anyone wants to hear it, is that people should be racing to enter in, and this concerning knowing that sin is falling away from the LORD, and that this is present even after having first believed. That is what Paul was talking about. But it is not true that people can't come into perfect love unto God, and others, even spouses. What is the peace of God? What is the peace that Jesus has and gives? It is knowing that we are already perfect in Him, in the context of having already also known the battle. That is the contentment that is in Him, and in worshiping in Spirit and truth. Therefore arbitration, and problems are taken away, not in sacrificing them in the clefts, like saying the answer is to not have the desire; but in the fulfillment that is in God. Arbirtation shows the existence of not even really wanting something, and this is why God doesn't deal with it. Even in people who are set on wanting the things they are in arbitration over, their desire has moved into offense, and out of sincerity. Our lives are not to consist in what we own, just as we are not to covet. But what the word covet means, is for someone to lust after something that they do not own. This is how sincerity gets turned into offense, by the instilling of coveting. Only in God, is there the existence of having always been with Him. And He is only found through seeking Him with the whole heart, and there is no abiding, or continuing in Him and love, without the presence of the whole heart currently being present. How can God say to be faithful in the little, and yet to seek Him with the whole heart? Because in Him both already exist, and the way of destruction is to cast these away. Therefore though we be perplexed, stuck down, or hard pressed, shall we pour ourselves out, we will find both the presence of continuing in Him in love, truth, and peace; and the contentment where we have already won, and know we were always with Him.